tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post7374340921474293251..comments2024-03-18T02:28:27.075-07:00Comments on Nancy S. Thompson: IWSG: Jealousy Among WritersNancy Thompsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05735642863696266005noreply@blogger.comBlogger61125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-75650569819905239802012-02-15T22:30:24.129-08:002012-02-15T22:30:24.129-08:00I love reading about the success of other writers ...I love reading about the success of other writers and I'm always so pleased when they are willing to open up and share their journey. I'm like you. I think, "Good for them. They worked hard and never gave up and look what happened. I can do the same."<br /><br />Success is not a limited resource. There's always enough to go around. Thanks for this post. I'd never really considered the idea of decreasing interest and waning blog tension when an author finds success.<br /><br />I found your blog through the Campaign and I'm a new follower!Celestahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08445617947839984701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-71593630973678000062012-02-10T11:10:15.717-08:002012-02-10T11:10:15.717-08:00'Some writers have blogged about how they rece...'Some writers have blogged about how they receive nasty emails from people,'<br /><br />Yowch. <br /><br />Writing is tough because there is vulnerability at every check point and it is such a public process. I don't have much to say about this post but I read it with interest, (and a smidge of horror!)Suzehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07908805179119217608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-30299680378676244472012-02-05T08:31:12.271-08:002012-02-05T08:31:12.271-08:00I must be living in la-la-land. I had no idea such...I must be living in la-la-land. I had no idea such things happened. That's actually disgusting to think one writer would send nasty emails to another because of their success. Sad. We're supposed to be a community of like-minded people. We hang out together because as writers we know we're a strange bunch, and who would understand us better than another writer. Very sad. I hear of another writer's success and I'm instantly filled with encouragement and hope. I think I'd stay away from those others.Joylene Nowell Butlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04497637513532136615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-21688021340704944322012-02-05T02:10:40.710-08:002012-02-05T02:10:40.710-08:00Hi Nancy, Thanks for joining my site, I was sadden...Hi Nancy, Thanks for joining my site, I was saddened to read this blog. I believe in Karma and people who treat others badly will receive their just rewards! Well actually when you think about it the hate mail writer's are already recieving theirs as they haven't had the positive results they were looking for in their work anyway!<br /><br />Surely there is enough of a market out there in the big wide world for everyone to receive their piece of the pie?<br /><br />Being new to this Blogging world I have not read the Blogs of the author you have spoken about, but if what you say is true, one must feel sorry for her, it is a sad and negative way to live!<br /><br />CarolynAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09678216576112327332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-82932946304214982852012-02-04T15:28:35.352-08:002012-02-04T15:28:35.352-08:00Hey Nancy.
I finally found you. I'm so sorry i...Hey Nancy.<br />I finally found you. I'm so sorry it took me forever to return your follow. Busy few days here in middle earth. I love your post on sticking together and not burning bridges. I totally, whole-heartedly agree. In fact I like you so much, I'm going to put your blog on my blog-list so I can read every post :) talk soonJade Harthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13222077919322049845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-77119298629323377402012-02-03T20:09:28.020-08:002012-02-03T20:09:28.020-08:00I have a friend right now who's scaling the he...I have a friend right now who's scaling the heights with her debut, a literary novel. And I am nothing but happy for her. She's earned her success through hard work and perseverance. It's so fun to help her promote and (hopefully) be able to brag about her when she's famous. And I know she'd do the same for me. Like other commentors have said, that kind of success fuels my optimism rather than any envy.Melodie Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04599091593083976703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-5723794392591881182012-02-03T12:06:57.111-08:002012-02-03T12:06:57.111-08:00I love reading of other people's success. I kn...I love reading of other people's success. I know some get jealous, but I've never seen the point of it a) because wonderful news shows us that if you are determined enough one day might soon become today le ii) being envious isn't going to help anyone, hehe and c) I LIKE good news. <br /><br />Also, I like to think of the road to publication like your very own novel, and there will be struggle and there will most certainly be low points, but its all in order that you get to the end; your end, and it has to be unique.<br /><br />Sooo, idk, I've never gotten jealous but whenever I'm feeling a little lost I like to sit and think this particular moment is making an excellent chapter in my journey.<br /><br /><3Mia Haysonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01041441666482084762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-36330348794432292912012-02-03T08:02:52.933-08:002012-02-03T08:02:52.933-08:00Having not had any success in the writing field --...Having not had any success in the writing field -- yet! -- I've not gotten a lot of hate mail. But I do know bloggers that have. I think it's in our nature to wonder why the good things that happen to others can't happen to us. It's also in our nature to sometimes not reflect on the fact that whatever good thing happened did not happen in a vacuum but was as a result of hard work and perseverance.<br /><br />PearlPearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05261369905176088917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-57279924259582151192012-02-03T05:54:32.616-08:002012-02-03T05:54:32.616-08:00Envy happens. I'm sure all of us have envied s...Envy happens. I'm sure all of us have envied someone at some point in our lives. By its nature, it can be hurtful to other people. But the person who envies is the person who must find a way to deal with it. For many, the way they deal with it is by cutting the connection with the object of their envy.Timothy Fishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06554064732811895577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-89513916527684785232012-02-02T19:59:09.876-08:002012-02-02T19:59:09.876-08:00Seriously? Natalie's gotten nasty emails becau...Seriously? Natalie's gotten nasty emails because something good--that's she's been working for for YEARS--came to her? What's wrong with people? <br /><br />Usually, I find the writerly folks in the blogosphere to be wonderfully supportive. I guess there has to be a few bad apples.<br /><br />And no. I love to hear about other people's success. It doesn't take anything from me.Donna K. Weaverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15763832177263927311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-62013686981791920592012-02-02T19:01:17.480-08:002012-02-02T19:01:17.480-08:00Actually, when someone leaves the ranks of the unp...Actually, when someone leaves the ranks of the unpublished it makes me proud and happy, and hopeful. But that's just me I guess.<br />I can't imagine trying to tear them down, even if I've decided that what they do isn't something I want to emulate. Each of us has our own story to tell, and when one of them shines brightly it makes all of us more brilliant.<br /><br />Great blog, you'll find me visiting more often. :)Kirstenhttp://www.ascenicroute.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-13668831312293641562012-02-02T16:09:30.774-08:002012-02-02T16:09:30.774-08:00It gives me hope when I read about someone else...It gives me hope when I read about someone else's successes, since it just shows that what I'm trying to do isn't so impossible, which it certainly feels like when I'm struggling. I do feel jealousy as well--but who doesn't?Golden Eaglehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08721520451194318436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-33257622194822859242012-02-02T12:25:37.548-08:002012-02-02T12:25:37.548-08:00I'm still new enough in my writing experience ...I'm still new enough in my writing experience that I find happiness for others when they land a deal or publish a book. I recognize my own struggles in their comments about writing their books. It's good to hear somebody is making it!Karen Elizabeth Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17190485992966502931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-73273182224611151462012-02-02T05:45:00.610-08:002012-02-02T05:45:00.610-08:00I am always struggling with the green-eyed monster...I am always struggling with the green-eyed monster. I'm still happy to express my happiness for others - if they are nice people and only if they are nice people - but the monster lives on. Thanks for this post, Nancy.<br />xoRobynRawknrobyn.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15997241410192066577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-60823075026649589532012-02-02T02:24:19.424-08:002012-02-02T02:24:19.424-08:00I would imagine that a dose of "healthy envy&...I would imagine that a dose of "healthy envy" is natural... but to be deliberately malicious and nasty... you've just burst my bubble... distorted my rose-coloured perception of this amazing & supportive online writing community... it seems like "amazing & supportive" applies when you're in the same boat as everybody else, struggling to be recognised...<br />On a lighter note, there must be some "they-all-lived-happily-ever-after-stories" out there...<br />Great post - a real "eye-opener"... !MISHhttp://writer-in-transit.co.za/insecure-writer-no-3/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-81736671475292575202012-02-01T20:14:52.003-08:002012-02-01T20:14:52.003-08:00Wow! It's one thing to be jealous or envious o...Wow! It's one thing to be jealous or envious of another person's success, and quite another to tear them down because of it. I get jealous of lots of people, but most of that is just awe! I definitely don't begrudge them their success -- I applaud them. And it definitely gives me hope :)Callie Leuckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09535505792102190920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-51798000434066747282012-02-01T18:10:22.817-08:002012-02-01T18:10:22.817-08:00I get jealous of other writers all the time, espec...I get jealous of other writers all the time, especially those no-talent hacks who get six-figure deals while I'm working my butt off for crumbs.PT Dillowayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09394481476862013009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-82471444024603723642012-02-01T15:25:57.385-08:002012-02-01T15:25:57.385-08:00Wow, you're right! Our posts could be companio...Wow, you're right! Our posts could be companions! Yours is about jealousy and mine's about envy. Very neat. <br /><br />I agree with M Pax here that even if we feel jealous of other writers (or envious as I say in my post), we shouldn't tear them down. We also shouldn't feel badly about ourselves. We should use their success as a springboard for our own. Learn from their strategy. They did it, so we can too!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07716190503345068698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-79366078930457635742012-02-01T15:11:41.932-08:002012-02-01T15:11:41.932-08:00What a lively blog you have, Nancy. Fabulous post ...What a lively blog you have, Nancy. Fabulous post on something very real and a fascinating discussion from readers. I have nothing new to add (I agree with many), other than to say thank goodness for Alex and his blog and you dropping by to say hi.Cathy Olliffe-Websterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12729578896443750402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-57728697291065504142012-02-01T14:53:19.886-08:002012-02-01T14:53:19.886-08:00Really? People send nasty emails? I don't get ...Really? People send nasty emails? I don't get that. We all need each other. Just because you land an agent and a publisher, doesn't mean it's the end of a rocky journey. For many writers, they still struggle. It's a tough business.<br /><br />A little jealousy is natural, but to cut others down because of it isn't right. Karma can be a B and all that.M Paxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14096697282530998519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-28638723835864223702012-02-01T13:52:15.524-08:002012-02-01T13:52:15.524-08:00Hi Nancy,
I know you have been eagerly anticipatin...Hi Nancy,<br />I know you have been eagerly anticipating a comment from shy and humble me. Okay, maybe a slight exaggeration. Did I ever mention I was delusional? lol<br />A fascinating article with fascinating replies. Personally and this is the truth, I am not jealous or envious of writers, published or otherwise. I suppose that maybe because I have no expectations of my writing and use writing merely as a therapeutic resource. If anything, I applaud and admire those who have the resilience and the determination to realise their writing dreams. <br />Okay, I'm slightly jealous of Penny the Jack Russell dog and modest internet star. If only I, a mere human, could formulate writing as well as her. Which reminds me, Nancy, Penny has bestowed an award upon your good self. She would also like you to know you are under no obligation to acknowledge the award. You may do with it as you seem fit.<br />Have a peaceful day and may you continue to embrace the magic of the written word.<br />With respect and kind wishes, Gary and yes indeed, Penny :)klahaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613505424843475639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-71503576591918863452012-02-01T13:13:16.075-08:002012-02-01T13:13:16.075-08:00I definitely fight the jealousy bug way too much. ...I definitely fight the jealousy bug way too much. For me, it discourages me a great deal, but that's just my personality. Now, if I don't know the person very well, then I tend to do the opposite and think, "Hey, if they can do it, so can I!"Metzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02012034716118754018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-75003524245234248642012-02-01T13:09:15.127-08:002012-02-01T13:09:15.127-08:00Jealousy is such a difficult part of human nature ...Jealousy is such a difficult part of human nature to deal with - both for the jealous person and the recipient. As writers, though, supposedly deep-thinking, sensitive souls, it seems so out of place. Shame that playground habits die so hard! I'm shocked to hear that people get hate-'mail' for being successful - I think I'll keep any successes I have to myself from now on...Linda Kinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08845487317521150618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-31405984415076096052012-02-01T12:52:22.726-08:002012-02-01T12:52:22.726-08:00I'm happy for anyone who achieves success! W...I'm happy for anyone who achieves success! Whenever friends have had a book published, I'm among the first to order it from Amazon!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03803472040500529682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5254902043762303002.post-74126632950125819342012-02-01T10:28:48.307-08:002012-02-01T10:28:48.307-08:00I agree that it's more of an envy than jealous...I agree that it's more of an envy than jealousy- the hope and yearning that I'll find success, too, but we are in such a strong, loving community that I can't help but feel honest excitement for the success of others.Juliana L. Brandthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15903360100714298208noreply@blogger.com